

Healthy Boundaries in Recovery: Mending Fences, Not Building Walls
“Mending Fences”: Boundaries That Breathe On growing up with no privacy, learning boundaries in sobriety, and why healthy fences still let love in. I have a problem with the term “boundaries” – with what it means and how to do it. It probably started with sharing one bathroom with four sisters and my parents. I’d be showering and someone would rush in, leaving me with a cold blast mid‑shampoo, or there’d be pounding on the door: “Hurry up!” My poor father would stand at the
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The Problem With Positive Thinking (And How It Could Kill Your Recovery)
Before You Think Positive, Learn Your Emotional ABCs (by Karen Rubinstein) I love Andy Williams. I really do. Moon River ? One of my favorites. But there’s one song I wish he’d skipped — It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year. Is it REALLY Andy? Because let’s be honest: it’s not always wonderful. But that is the perception of this time of year - caroling, family dinners, mistletoe and hohoho, candlelit mennorahs and on top of it all - good cheer. I feel I’m not radiating ho
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Fear of Being Seen — Removing the Masks
Halloween is over. You can tell because all the orange, black, and purple candy bags in the supermarket—spiders, haunted houses, bats—vanished overnight, replaced by red, green, and white packs bursting with Christmas trees, Santas, and reindeer. I was late (as usual; does a year’s notice ever help?) scrambling for candy to hand out, while one of the clerks—already in full retail-elf mode—was swapping out the shelves for the next season. I snagged one of the last pumpkin-shap
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